tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4195397708379774475.post531265907035046661..comments2022-11-06T01:38:35.729-07:00Comments on The Domrese Family Blog: Testing....Testing...1....2....3....Domrese Family Bloghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14702462423169512786noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4195397708379774475.post-21868016270142509872009-09-01T07:59:33.037-07:002009-09-01T07:59:33.037-07:00Thanks guys! We'll just keep plugging away! Ni...Thanks guys! We'll just keep plugging away! Nice to know we're not the only ones out there with kiddos testing the boundaries!Domrese Family Bloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14702462423169512786noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4195397708379774475.post-88068735273066217972009-09-01T07:28:54.714-07:002009-09-01T07:28:54.714-07:00I've tried all the stuff everyone has listed f...I've tried all the stuff everyone has listed for you and it all worked for about a day and the it didn't make a difference to Claire - and most of the time Kyle. I often find that I am out of choices. <br /><br />I will yell (especially in the car when I can't pull over), threaten, take toys away. We've even let Kyle do something she's really wanted to do. That works for about 2 hours, then she's back to testing. I've often said to Don "what do I do now?? There's nothing else to try!!"<br /><br />Basically, I can't offer any suggestions, but I can say I know how you feel!Worthy Familyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04737091798897499856noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4195397708379774475.post-51991159920205842622009-08-31T20:43:59.228-07:002009-08-31T20:43:59.228-07:00We use 1-2-3 Magic (there are books and DVD's)...We use 1-2-3 Magic (there are books and DVD's) at our school. It works very well and keeps the parent/teacher from losing control. It's hard to explain, but check it out. Good luck! It doesn't sound fun or easy.Nicolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14293641148129115141noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4195397708379774475.post-19640374037957638852009-08-31T17:14:43.598-07:002009-08-31T17:14:43.598-07:00Oh, one more comment . . . we take away morning ca...Oh, one more comment . . . we take away morning cartoons as a consequence. And dessert.Jolenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10982708219099782355noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4195397708379774475.post-19613508613181002682009-08-31T15:15:00.522-07:002009-08-31T15:15:00.522-07:00I have no advice for you either but deffinetly fee...I have no advice for you either but deffinetly feel your pain. I no longer can resort to spanking Joe because all he does is folds his arms and screams, "Don't hit me!" which is even worse in public. I have yet to find something that does help - but remember that everyone goes through stages with their kids of loving them and then hating them. It makes sense, they are humans and we never go our whole lives loving someone so much that you ALWAYS want to spend time with them. We have arguments with our husbands and need time away from them. Children I do not believe are different. A few months back I told J if something didn't change Joe was going in daycare - I just couldn't handle him. I don't know what changed but I feel like I like him again. Good luck and don't get too discouraged - you are an amazing Mom.Kaitlinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14591576350422074998noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4195397708379774475.post-14258074454293478282009-08-31T14:49:58.385-07:002009-08-31T14:49:58.385-07:00we are not big spankers here wither...I feel like ...we are not big spankers here wither...I feel like how can I say no hitting but hit her/him?<br /><br />I think the missing out on lunch with Angie was perfect, we do a lot of taking privilges away and that helps or saying if you do this again we will take favorite toy away for the day the key is to be consistent and actually take the toy away etc. but serioulsy Amber you do a great job I always get advice from you!Carissalaylahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10768064818993731558noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4195397708379774475.post-11357366552791844082009-08-31T14:19:36.098-07:002009-08-31T14:19:36.098-07:00My only concern is that if there is that there is ...My only concern is that if there is that there is no immediate reward/consequence after the behavior. I found at least with teaching that promptness was important. I'm not sure they'll get the reward system. We tried it with chocolate chips and it died pretty fast. I will definitely look more into it though! Thanks guys!Domrese Family Bloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14702462423169512786noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4195397708379774475.post-6513313654204386532009-08-31T13:43:37.170-07:002009-08-31T13:43:37.170-07:00We've been doing charts with rewards/stars too...We've been doing charts with rewards/stars too. Harry gets a star and a quarter at the end of every day if he's made "good decisions." Love and Logic... I just got a book, you're welcome to borrow it if you'd like. He saves his quarters and then buys his own cars at Walmart, which in turn, is his bribe to behave for like 3 days "or we don't get to go to Walmart tomorrow/today/next Friday." I don't like the bribing, but at this point, I'm calling it 'rewarding' because it comes AFTER the behaviour and not before. This is coming on the tail end of the worst 3 weeks of bad behaviour I've had with him, but it seems to be helping.The Butterfieldshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14356956683507276293noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4195397708379774475.post-87923350129529898232009-08-31T13:19:47.883-07:002009-08-31T13:19:47.883-07:00Oh wait! Maybe this will be helpful.
With Vane...Oh wait! Maybe this will be helpful. <br /><br />With Vanessa, I was getting tired of all the time-outs and negatives, so I'm now combining the time-outs with a star chart. For every day she has with NO time-outs, she gets a star. After 7 stars, she gets a quarter. At the end of the month (or when she has a month's equivalent of stars) we'll go to the dollar store with her 4 quarters. :) Has helped!Jolenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10982708219099782355noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4195397708379774475.post-52584101764503960922009-08-31T13:17:08.416-07:002009-08-31T13:17:08.416-07:00It's SO hard not to spank when they hit you, i...It's SO hard not to spank when they hit you, isn't it? It's like a reflex. Seems like the hotsauce option worked, huh? <br /><br />Sorry, wish I had advice. :/Jolenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10982708219099782355noreply@blogger.com